Day 18 - Siblings hurt too

Silas was the youngest of 4 brothers. His cancer did not only affect him, but it affected our whole family, including his 3 big brothers.

When Silas' diagnosis was confirmed on February 10th, 2012, Gideon was celebrating his 9th birthday. We celebrated in the hospital. We had been planning a surprise birthday party. Friends and family stepped up and helped give him a surprise party anyway, but Silas and I were not able to attend, we were in the hospital. Silas was also too sick to attend Michael's birthday party with friends.

We tried our best to make sure the older boys still got to enjoy outside activities but there was still so much we just could not do while we were caring for Silas. They missed out on a lot or normal regular activities. I am so thankful for those that remembered the older boys while Silas was sick. People who sent cards to them, took them to see movies or go to the park.

They missed out on being with their brother and parents too. We were separated for many days and nights during treatment.

Then there is the part about them worrying, they worried about Silas, they worried what would happen next, whether he would come home from the hospital.

At the end, it was extremely emotional for them. Michael and Jason both slept in our room along with Silas at night, fearing he would die when they weren't close by. Michael wouldn't leave the house, afraid that Silas would be gone when he came back. Gideon cried a lot before Silas passed away, he was so upset about Silas being in pain.

Childhood cancer hurts siblings too. We have had help from those around us to take care of Silas' older brothers and their needs. We have tried to give them the attention and support that they need. They will get through this, just as we will.